Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Book Review: Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

"Based upon Ephesians 5:33 and extensive biblical and psychological research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs reveals the power of unconditional love and unconditional respect and how husbands and wives can reap the benefits of marriage that God intended."

I recently had the chance to review the book Love and Respect for I was really quite impressed with how Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is reveal the most simple intimate needs of both men and woman in an effort to break the cycle of craziness that many couples endure.

Love and Respect was able to not only place emphasis on the things that we often do to hurt each other. (unintentionally of course...) Eggerichs stresses that when a woman feels unloved she is conditioned to disrespect. When a man feels disrespected he is conditioned to treat the woman with a behavior that is unloving. Rather than base our love and respect on conditions:

ie: We shall only give the other person what they need when our needs our met.

Love and respect should be granted to one another WITHOUT CONDITION. Personally this was one of the most relationship altering notions in the entire book. The moment it becomes about what we give to the other person, our needs naturally get met along the way. That is beautiful!

Something that isn't covered in the book but as a reader who is trying to evolve her own relationship, I feel it is important to mention is not to forget that since our brains are all a certain percentage female and male, the exact recipe of love and respect that a person needs varies slightly from person to person.

One of the things that I really enjoyed about Dr. Eggerichs writing style is that his advice is not one sided. He often refers to the perspective of his wife and covers the emotions that both parties have experienced in any given situation. He even mentions in his book that him and his wife often lead marriage seminars together and includes various letters written from men and woman whose lives have been changed.

I absolutely would recommend this book to everyone especially those who feel that they are stuck in the crazy cycle themselves. There are bible references within the book. That doesn't bother me whatsoever although I am aware some people might not feel entirely comfortable with that.

**I was given a free book by book sneeze, in exchange I was required to share my absolute honest opinion. The link above is an affiliate link meaning that if you click the link and make a purchase I might receive a commission. I have no material connection to the brands, products or services that I have mentioned. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255.**